Do you have a colleague who rubbishes your work, pokes his or her nose in all your matters, and shifts his workload to your head? If yes, then we assure you that you are not alone. In fact, these annoying co-workers have a natural flair for turning us into a nervous wreck or a raging bull!
Follow these 5 effective techniques to tackle that overbearing colleague, smartly.
1. Analyze The Situation On The Spot!
When your bossy coworker starts criticizing your work, then you shouldn’t lose your cool, all of a sudden. Immediately, re-check your work. If you find your work satisfactory and error-free, then you can calmly point out this fact to his face.
Sometimes, you might end up discovering a few mistakes. Still, there is no need to feel low. Keep in mind that, “to err is human.” Say a quick ‘thank you’ to him and correct those blunders. However, you might have to endure his constant ‘I-told-you-so’ attitude for a while!
2. Keep Cool and Control Your Voice!
When a colleague acts bossy, keeps nagging, and unnecessarily interrupts you while you are talking, then you either feel cranky or gloomy. However, instantaneous yelling or wailing will make you look unprofessional and melodramatic.
Simply, take deep breaths, count to ten, plaster a fake smile, and continue with what you were doing (i.e. ignore).
3. Assert Yourself!
Whenever your obnoxious colleague starts his ‘overstepping-his-limits’ act, just make him aware that you are not a pushover. Up your confidence level, be tactful, and speak out politely!
Scenario 1: you are busy doing a task given by your boss and your overbearing co-worker tries to interfere.
Your coworker might act helpful, sugarcoat his commands as advice and coerce you to follow them. Simply, decline his unsolicited suggestions, politely. You can always remind him that he is not your boss, if he starts to argue. This will surely put the wanna-be-boss in his place!
Scenario 2: Your colleague, frequently, interrupts you in the midst of a conversation.
No need to keep quiet or curse under your breath every time he interrupts you. Take a direct, civilized approach, and ask him to let you complete your statement, on the spot.
Scenario 3: Your colleague tries to put his workload on you.
Inform the coworker that you, already, have an assignment to complete. Ask him to meet the boss if he is unable to finish his work, on his own.
4. Hold A Private Chat With That Coworker!
This will help you to confront your coworker on his boorish behavior and to sort out any issues, privately. Keep the conversation light and try to reason with him. Ask him to treat you with respect, if he expects the same from you.
5. Get Your Boss, Onboard!
If the offending colleague refuses to mend his behavior despite your efforts, then you must apprise your boss about your coworker-related issues. You can also cite some past incidents to explain your plight. Try to make it look like you are viewing him as your last hope regarding this issue!
Sadly, most of these bossy persons manage to get away with their obnoxious behavior due to lack of any resistance from their victims. Discuss this matter with other colleagues and take a united stand against the office bully.